Cathy Ladman Daughter Milan and Husband Tom Frykman

Cathy Ladman daughter Milan was adopted in 2004. She is already 19 years old, as the comedian mentioned in her Jimmy Fallon show. 

Milan's Adoption Story

In Freshyarn, Cathy shared about her journey of adopting her child, Milan, and the difficulties she faced as a new parent. She and her partner met Milan in China on July 12th, 2004. 

They tried to have a biological child for a long time but could not. She was already at 45 at that time, and despite her doctors running various tests, they said she could not get pregnant. Besides, her partner already has a vasectomy.

Thus, they had a long discussion about adopting a child and felt they wanted a little girl from China. But, they had to undergo a lengthy and bureaucratic process to adopt her.

It took them 12 to 18 months to adopt her, but in reality, it was over four years for them because of various complications along the way, both emotional and financial. The comedian was depressed, and her marriage was strained.

The couple had little income and were not in a situation to adopt anything. But eventually, they managed to get through the difficulties and reached the point where they were ready to leave for China. 

Sometimes her spouse would say she would not remember how married they were once they had a child. She did not realize if he was teasing or warning her when he said so. 

She also realized it must be valid when he said she would not remember much of her marriage since her partner already had two children from his previous relationship. 

They took the longest flight to China from Los Angeles on July 9, 2004. They reached Guangzhou, China, on July 11 and flew to Nanjing the next day to get their baby. When the caregiver handed her the baby she had seen in photos only, she expressed that moment as downright surreal. 

They took her to their hotel, and the baby started to cry. She would call every time she was kept down. Someone would have to hold her in their arms to make her fall asleep. Within two nights, the couple was utterly exhausted. 

On top of that, her spouse fell sick because of a meal which put additional strain on her as a new parent. In the end, she explained her mixed feelings about having a child, but she loves her baby, who is already a grown-up. 

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